You're allowed to want more.
To love more fully. To feel fully seen in it.
Hi, I’m Ruxandra.
I coach relationships that actually work, whatever shape they take, from lived experience, not a textbook.
I support people through the relationships that actually matter to them, romantic, sexual, with themselves, no matter the shape they take. Not "fix your communication" coaching. The real stuff: what you want, what you're afraid to ask for, why you keep ending up in the same pattern, what it would mean to actually be seen.
We work 1:1, with my attention in both the conscious and somatic side of things (yes, your body is in the room too). Some people come with a specific question. Some come because something's been quietly off for a while and they can't name it yet. Both are the right reason to start.
What you walk away with: language for what you actually want, more capacity to ask for it, and a relationship with yourself that doesn't collapse the second things get uncomfortable.
About me
A techie, a psychology nerd, a painter, singer, foodie, adrenaline junkie ... the list goes on, but at my essence I'm endlessly curious about humans. What makes people tick, what they want and are afraid to say out loud, how they love. No topic is too taboo or off-limits for me, and I've yet to meet the story that's just black or white. The canvas is always more colorful than that and that's exactly where the interesting stuff lives!
Originally from the beautiful Transylvania, Romania, I moved to Amsterdam in 2016 chasing "more" and "different". I got both, and then some. Love across cultures, relationships that didn't fit any template I'd been handed, a dating scene that rewrote my assumptions more than once. I'm not vanilla, in how I live or how I coach, and I've learned that the parts of yourself you think are "too much" are usually the most interesting place to start.
That's the lens I bring into every session. Not theory, not a framework I read about, lived experience, and a coach who can hold whatever shape your story takes. I work with people who are hungry for more in how they love, who know "good enough" stopped being good enough a while ago.
Are you one of them?
P.S.: Yes, I also know the theory, as a professionally trained and accredited coach.
Client Reviews
Ruxandra is incredibly knowledgeable and has a remarkable ability to read between the lines, picking up on subtle shifts in facial expressions, body language, and tone that often go unnoticed. She is sharp, thoughtful, and honest, and she will definitely tell you what you need to hear, not just what you want to hear. I would highly recommend her to anyone who wants to better understand themselves or simply have a real and honest conversation.
— T., Amsterdam, navigating big relationship transitions
What I like the most about her is that she has invested a lot studying and honing her coaching skills and techniques, which is evident in every session we've had together. She went above and beyond to cover my question, and I genuinely enjoyed our interactions, which made the coaching experience even more enriching. I am grateful to have met her, and I wholeheartedly recommend Ruxandra as a professional and life coach and mentor.
— M., Delft, working on career and parenting challenges
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